When I was 10, my mom made me wear a bra and it felt like a punishment for being different.
When I was 10, I took the bra off when changing for gymnastics and accidentally dropped it in the school hallway. A teacher picked it up and said, “Oh, this must belong to you” and handed it back to me in front of everyone. I quit gymnastics.
When I was 11, I thought maybe the boobs would be okay so long as they didn’t get any bigger than would fit in my hand, so I kept measuring it, but they did.
When I was 12, I started wearing two or three sports bras to smush them down, until one day a classmate said, “Are you wearing two bras?!” while laughing.
When I was 13, a boy told me he wanted to squeeze my boobs “until they popped.”
When I was 14, I got cast in a play as an older character and a classmate told me I got the role because I had boobs.
When I was 17, my mom told me to return a swimsuit because it would be too distracting for my boyfriend’s father.
When I was 21, I got properly fitted for a bra and everyone felt the need to tell me how much better my boobs looked.
When I was 26, I got pregnant and my immediate fear was that my boobs would get bigger.
When I was 28, I got shamed for trying to feed my screaming baby in public without a cover.
When I was 28, people asked me “why are you bothering to use a breastfeeding cover?”
When I was 30, people gave me weird looks that I wasn’t yelling at my kid for putting their hand on my boob.
When I was 31, I avoided going to the beach or pool because I didn’t want to have to deal with boobs in a swimsuit.
When I was 32, I got asked, again, “why don’t you get a breast reduction?”
When I was 33, I watched a 5yo girl get shamed for running around in sweltering heat without a shirt on and had to reprimand a bunch of tween boys who thought it was okay to shame her for doing something they do all the time.
When I was 34, my kid kept patting my breast and saying “Mommy’s squishy breast!!” They will never see me express any shame about tits, because I want them to have a different mindset than I had. Yes, boobs are nice! They’re squishy! They’re fun! That’s the end of that.
I’m 35 and no longer give a fuck. I don’t care anymore. As a teenager my tits were covered in stretch marks. They’ve been engorged with milk. My nipple changed shape with pregnancy. Give it another couple decades and my breasts will probably be all wrinkly. It’s sexual when I’m using it sexually. I don’t fucking care, and I won’t be ashamed anymore.
Every time a policy or cultural hangup treats people with breasts differently, it fucks us over.
Tumblr’s new policy makes an active choice to participate in this culture of shame. By classifying “female-presenting nipples” as explicit material, Tumblr has taken a stance that any chest or breast that differs from a male default is worthy of shame and unavoidably sexual. The idea that breasts are shameful and unavoidably sexual is exactly what fucked me up for so much of my life.
Stop shaming people for having bodies.
I’ve been seething in rage thinking of this all day and @aibidil put into words what was reeling in my mind.
ok please note i had no idea what i was doing for any of this and theres probably a much better way to construct a base BUT this is what…. ended up happening
the vague shape of it is getting there … . .
needs more bands
MORE BANDS
becoming a flat onion
the top is removed so i can get inside of it
… and then a band of cardboard is placed on the inside to support it ( its standing !! )
the bands are cut on the places where they jut out and then overlapped and taped, so the shape is smoother but its STILL an onion
so i cut the whole damn thing in half and added a big band of cardboard in the middle to lengthen it out. the Orb is being born
its rounded out a little bit more on the sides and then the mouth is cut out
FABRIC
F A B R I C ( this is the point in the game where my gluegun stopped working, and so everything from this point on is glued by me heating the sticks over a candle flame. nice
the seams on the fabric are cut and glued into place ( and hand stitched in a lotta places and a lot of em look, Really bad in the back h hah HA ) and the teeth ( fleece, cardboard to keep em flat, and a little bit of stuffing ) are thrown in the mouth
tongue cuttin
handstitched the seams on the tongue, got the base for it ready and the eyes cut out
the EYES ( cardboard with white on one side, black on the other, and a little thin strip of black going along the edge ) ( also the pupils arent glued down yet hey )
EYES
TONGUE
THERE THEY ARE
tulle time, so much goddamn tulle
SO much of it just everywhere on the back its a mess, the back looks like an awful grape but it doesnt matter its the BACK
heres the Looking Hole ( theres black mesh netting over the top ) – the little pink eye details are also in
and then here it is, this Mess ( tights and boots both are probably gonna change but Oh Well ) i dont know what the tongue was doing so crooked in these shots but its TOO LATE
Everyone deserves the opportunity to dress their best. That’s why I’m so glad to be able to share Tommy Hilfiger’s innovative #TommyAdaptive collection with you. #TommyPartner
I know this is very important for people with disabilities and such but all I’m thinking is “Oh this is where super heroes get their shirts from.”
What all ask boxes look like for me (submission boxes look exactly the same):
Left: what happens when I try to open dms (New Message does nothing); I can’t even read them. Right: when I try to go to someone’s dms from their blog.
Neither new things I post nor old things I post show up in the tags they’re in, even if they were before.
I can type things into replies, but it won’t actually post them.
Since it doesn’t seem this one has been encountered by many people yet, maybe reblog this so people know about it. I’m probably getting deleted though
Tumblr is shadowbanning people and they aren’t even trying to be subtle about it.
Please spread the word.
I’m glad this is spreading but simultaneously it makes it sound like the shadowban is much less severe than it is because I didn’t realize, and this shadowban is so severe I can’t even add on / tell anyone that.
All my likes, reblogs, and replies are hidden from the notes of EVERY post.
When I like or rb things it doesn’t show notes in someone’s activity / dash, except long-time followers (not sure about the exact cutoff/conditions).
If I reblogged and added something to this from a non-follower they wouldn’t even know.
Check and see: my rb’s don’t even show up in the notes.
So people couldn’t even find out I added something on by checking the notes either:
Not to mention: I’m hidden from all searches, can’t be @’d, past @’s of me are hidden from my notes, I don’t get notified when people reply to a post I replied to, my @’s don’t give notes, and every search on my blog is blanked. I can’t even ask/submit to myself even with anons, and lots more.
Oh, yeah, and: MY BLOG ISN’T EVEN MARKED NSFW. Every flagged post I’ve found was restored. But every flagged post you contest brings attention to you that risks you just getting shadowbanned randomly.
THIS is the version that should get spread around…
Tbh I’m really sick of cis women talking about creating all women spaces and saying “Oh yeah, and gay guys are invited obviously” before even considering or mentioning trans women.
You know what I changed my mind reblog this.
I. Do. Not. Want. Gay. Men. In. My. All. Women. Spaces.
Women? Yes. Trans women? Yes. Gay women? Yes. Bisexual women? Yes. All women? YES.
Men? No.
Regardless if they’re gay men, this is not a space for them. I couldn’t give a flying fuck who they’re sexually attracted to. That hasn’t stopped cis gay men from shutting down conversations or taking them over, or from behaving inappropriately and unsafely towards women.
Women need safe spaces where we can be women and talk about what’s important for and to us. Women need all women spaces.
Trans women more than welcome.
YES If I see that post about some utopian women-only gym where gay men are also invited but lesbians and trans women aren’t even mentioned ONE MORE TIME, I’m going to fucking strangle someone
“Most historians and social scientists agree that homosexuality itself has existed roughly the same degree in all times and places. While the numbers may have remained relatively constant, gay visibility has fluctuated wildly, depending on the prevailing climate. The levels of homophobia have fluctuated as well, and a pattern emerges: the greater the visibility, the greater were the antihomosexual feelings. For homosexual men and women, history has been a grotesque seesaw: guarded toleration followed by angry backlash.”
Tired But Wired 